More incidents of abuse by church ushers
This is a copy of the email I sent to the pastors via the church website. I had a few typos but the letter is clear when you read it entirely.
AUGUST 31, 2008
DEAR PASTOR BILL WINSTON AND SISTER VERONICA WINSTON,
TIME: AFTER 11:15 SERVICE
INCIDENT: MALE MINISTER SLAPPED ME IN THE FACE-LEFT CHEEK
WHO: ANTHONY WILKINS/WILKS (5FT 2IN TALL) MINISTER IN TRAINING
ISSUE: HE SAID THAT IS NORMAL TO GREET PEOPLE WITH A SLAP. I DID NOT GREET HIM IN THAT WAY. I SAID “HELLO AND IT LOOKS LIKE YOU ARE GETTING TALLER”, AND THEN HE SLAPPED ME.
MY ISSUE: ABUSE MY (s/b “BY”) MEN. THE MEMORIES ARE STILL WITH ME AND MY CONCERN IS THAT I MIGHT ALLOW SOMEONE OF HIS CHARACTER TO CAUSE ME TO FALL BACK INTO FIGHTING VERBALLY AND PHYSICALLY. I DO NOT FIGHT TO RESTRAIN. I FIGHT TO SURVIVE. DUE TO MY MEDICAL CONDITION I HAVE NO OTHER CHOICE BUT TO FIGHT TO SURVIVE. (I bruise easy fighting could end the quality of life I enjoy if not end my life as told by my doctors. edited 06/23/2014)
ANTHONY NEEDS HELP WITH HIS ANGER ISSUES. THIS IS NOT THE 1ST ANTHONY HAS RAISED HIS HAND TO A FEMALE. THIS IS THE 1ST TIME HE HAS HIT ME IN THE FACE. PREVIOUSLY IT WOULD BE HARD SLAPS TO THE SHOULDERS. I HAVE NO INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP WITH ANTHONY. I DO NOT UNDERSTAND WHY THIS MAN OF GOD CAN NOT CONTROL HIMSELF AND WHY THE CHURCH ALLOWS HIM TO OPERATE IN A CAPACITY WHERE HE DEALS WITH THE PUBLIC.
WHEN THIS EVENT OCCURRED PASTOR BARNETT WAS PRAYING AND ANYTHING OTHER THAN QUIETLY TELLING ANTHONY SLAPPING ME WAS OUT OF LINE WOULD HAVE INTERRUPTED ANOTHER PERSON’S HEALING OR DELIVERANCE.
THIS EVENT HAS DISTURBED ME GREATLY AND CAUSES MY ANGER TO RETURN. THIS IS THE ONE PLACE I ENJOY COMING TO WEEKLY. I CAN ONLY COME TO CHURCH ON SUNDAYS. PASTOR, HIS ACTIONS DO NOT LOOK LIKE YOU OR JESUS. I AM NOT GOING TO TAKE IT ANYMORE. YOU NEED TO GET ANTHONY SOME HELP. PUT HIM IN COUNSELING OR SOME DOMESTIC VIOLENCE PREVENTION PLACE. I DO NOT WANT TO BE FORCED TO DEFEND MYSELF. I BLACK-OUT WHEN HIT BY MEN AND SOMETIMES CAN NOT REMEMBER WHAT I HAVE DONE. THIS IS BAD AND I KNOW IT. SO I AM ASKING YOU TO GET HIM HELP SO I DO NOT HAVE TO DEFEND MYSELF.
So, this is one letter I sent trying to get help because of the abusive nature of the men in the church. The goal here is to have the Pastors retrain or get help with training their ushers. There is no reason for violent behavior in or out of church by the body of Christ. Read more on incident of 06/22/2014.
Posted on 06/23/2014, in Ministry, News and tagged LUTG RADIO -STOP VIOLENCE IN THE CHURCH, Stop the violence in the church, Ushers who abuse women, Violence in the church. Bookmark the permalink. 1 Comment.